so there’s this terrible spotify ad (i don’t have premium because unemployed. boo) from biore, about their ridiculous nose strips, and i want to throw something across the room every damn time i hear it. FIRST OFF, those “blackheads” on your nose usually aren’t even blackheads, they’re sebaceous filaments. if your skin is properly washed and exfoliated, then they’re not dirt, they’re supposed to be there. they’re just going to come back and biore KNOWS THAT, so they have that awful ad telling you that they look “dirty” and disgusting (their words!!! idk about the word disgusting but i know they used dirty and the entire ad is very very self esteem-killing) so you’ll keep on buying the damn nose strips for a fake condition that isn’t going to go away. you can diminish their appearance using AHA exfoliants, but they will be back within 24-48 hours if you try to remove them.
in other words: fuck you and your predatory scam, biore. throw out ur biore strips guys.
I NEVER KNEW THIS IF ONLY SOMEONE TOLD ME WHEN I WAS 12 I MAY NOT HAVE DEVELOPED DERMATILLOMANIA.
FOR FUCKING REAL
From the Wiki article on sebaceous filaments: “Unlike blackheads, however, they cannot be removed and are a permanent part of the human skin.”
This has honest to god changed my life okay thank you OP thank you so much
I wish I knew this because I’ve spent so much time in the bathroom trying to pick them, which only resulted in bloodying my nose up. My mom told me they were black heads and that I wasn’t washing properly which upset my greatly. But thanks to this, I now know that I can stop picking at it and stop feeling terrible about having them. Thank you.
Reblog to save a nose
See, I actually DO get blackheads in and around my nose. But I’d rather back the natural oil and filaments drawing the oil out of my skin, than clogging up my open pores with primer or whatever.
It CAN be helpful for makeup, to get a really even surface to work with… but you’ll pay for it in breakouts and angry skin if you’re using cheap foundation. Often even if you’re using GOOD foundation.
Please love your skin. Invest in proper skin care and moisturizer, clean your face appropriately to your skin type, and love yourself. They’re doing their best to keep you healthy, it’s not disgusting. You’ll get infections and breakouts if you try to remove them too hard or too often.
i feel like slughorn is a MUCH better example of a flawed but lovable character than snape and yet here we are
slughorn says stupid crap like expressing shock that muggleborn wizards and witches can be so talented but he also treats all his students equally in terms of academics, point distribution and desire to educate. the slug club is an example of his slytherin ambition but literally all he seems to want is like. to have his letters read and some free candy and to live comfortably. he loves his students a lot and actively avoids associating with death eaters. he believes in merit above all and is wowed by skill and character regardless of blood status or background. hes a nice flawed old man and hes way better than snape i dont CARE we stan the real potions master
slughorn pineapple potter, you’re named after the okayest man i ever knew
…we gonna forget that he tried riding on all his “famous” students’ coattails tho and emotionally manipulated Hagrid into letting him take potion ingredients from the corpse of his; admittedly ODD; “best friend” ?
Quietly racist/prejudiced, petty, and overtly showing favoritism to “high fliers” over “mundane” students isn’t the worst thing in the world, true. But Slughorn is JUST as biased as Snape, if not nearly so overt as to blatantly favor Slytherin over Gryffindor. Is house favoritism worse than individual favoritism…?
“Harry wasn’t sure whether he liked Slughorn or not. He supposed he had been pleasant in his way, but he had also seemed vain and, whatever he said to the contrary, much too surprised that a Muggle-born should make a good witch.”
He’s also a damned hypocrite, saying that teachers shouldn’t have favorites, and then telling Harry to his face that Lily was one of his. (Not only, ONE of.) Points for honesty…? But how does that balance I wonder~ Particularly since he’s involved in corruption by utilizing school connections and the student-teacher relationship to meddle in Ministry affairs, AND getting kickbacks in the form of tickets and the ministry overlooking certain behaviors. He’s also used house elves as tasters instead of using a detection spell for poison, which is problematic at best, yeah? You’ve got the whole of magic at your fingertips and you’re going to use another living creature instead of your wand, mate? Nice~
Sure. He never fought for Voldemort; either by coercion or free will; and there’s something to be said for his ambition not blinding him to the potential harm in other Dark wizards. BUT. Is his small minded pettiness and blood-based ambition really any better than Snape…?
tfw you think “ohh this person reblogged/liked a post, they look interesting-”
and you go to their blog. and you scroll….
and all it is is sexist post after cishet hate after bullshit unfactchecked post….
So much for “love is love” and “we’re the good guys.”
Aside from being kind, I feel like as people we need to own our choices.
I bleed a lot. It’s a thing. I need lots of protein otherwise I faint a lot and plant protein doesn’t cut it. But I’m also trying to eat less meat because while I believe that mass factory farming is awful, I don’t think all farming is and that this giant-portion-of-meat-for-every-meal concept is a bit ridiculous. I have the luxury of only being able to afford to eat only certified free range animal products, made easier by living in a country where beef and lamb is free range and grass fed by default. I’m lucky enough to know a few hunters who will share their home kill in exchange for me cooking it for them. I’ve slaughtered sheep myself in the past. I spent a month with the shearing gangs this year and six months working on a dairy farm when I was younger. I’m not ignorant as to where it comes from, so please stop assuming as much.
I only purchase free range eggs because I determinedly disagree with cage farming. I think it’s evil and I have the ability (feeding only myself) to restrict what I buy to what I believe.
I tend to avoid imported food unless there’s little other choice. I prefer to buy produce that’s not only local but that has the farm’s name on the box I’m picking from.
Most of my clothes (aside from jeans and shoes – the later largely because I have very fucked up feet in part caused by childhood neglect) are second hand because it’s cheaper and frankly I disagree with fast fashion.
Most of what I purchase, I purchase with an eye to the future. And I am privileged to be able to do so and to have the money to prioritise that.
I am likely never going to stop eating milk, eggs, honey, meat or wearing wool, leather and fur because for the person I am in the place that I live, that makes the most sense to me.
I’ll do what I can to mitigate the environmental and moral costs of those choices because that also makes sense to me.
Please stop telling me I’m a murdering carnist whore for those choices. It’s unnecessary and just stirs up hatred.
This are my choices. I have my reasons for why I make them, as I assume that you (generic) have yours. Neither of ours make much difference in the grand scheme of things, something else we need to own up to. Our choices are largely irrelevant.
That said…if you try and tell me that something is killing animals when it clearly is not, if you try and tell me that your choice to wear chemical dyed polyester and rubber is more moral than my choice to wear vegetable tanned leather and wool…don’t expect me to take that lying down, any more than I would expect you to take it if I told you that your choice to wear plastic pants is personally ending the world.
…you may notice that I have never done that.
And hey, you may be more comfortable wearing those plastic pants and knowing that they don’t come from a domesticated animal bred for meat. Me, I’m happier knowing that the not-meat-animal-parts aren’t being wasted.
It’s all choices. It’s not good or bad or world saving or world ending and they’re easier if you understand the how and why behind them but in the end they’re just…choices.
Own them.
I must admit that I am supremely jealous of your fortune in having that sort of food available to you so easily; from how you describe it. And thank you for the reminder to begin looking for pieces I can wear the rest of; or the next largest portion of; my life.
Particularly as I begin my transition in earnest and look for a comfortable weight I can maintain; I hope to Gods never to see over 150 again I was SO unhealthy!; I have the OPTION of buying slightly more expensive but much better QUALITY clothing that will last if taken care of.
I always wonder what exactly people who say this think love is like for mono people.
(Also love may not be a finite resource, but time is.)
I already know I’m going to take yet more hate for this to add to the pile of anti-poly hatemail in my inbox and the shit from the vegan post. But you know what? I am SO SICK of this rhetoric. Adult Relationships Are For Adults. And this, dear children, is why~
Yes. Time is a finite resource. Which is why we have terms like “poly saturated” to mean that it would be unethical and rude to our current partners for us to add more partners past that point. Your saturation point is different for everyone. Personally, I’m tapped out at two. I know people who have many more, but really only because their partners ALSO have partners which means that while time is a finite resource, there are more people to spread it around. And if the person you were hoping to spend some time with is ALREADY busy, well. There are more than just two options: with partner, alone. That web of connections is going to change depending on number of partners, how involved your metamours are; your partner’s partners; and what your particular polycule thinks of as a “partner.”
Does cuddling count? Someone you smooch every once in awhile? Is it only sexual partners…? Hell, do nonsexual kink partners “count”? That line is going to change depending on who you talk to.
Also in response to your reblog, yes, there are different kinds of love. No, not every partner is one you have sex with. Your assumptions aren’t the fault of Polyamorous people. They’re the fault of being so immersed in monogamous culture; specifically toxic monogamist culture where “micro cheating” and expectations of being your partner’s sole emotional support are A Thing; that you can’t look past the social script.
Social script says: fall in love and/or date, form long term relationship, move in, get married, have kids.
Some people already buck this trend one way or another. Either by not getting married, deciding not to procreate, or any one of a hundred reasons. I know long term partners who still don’t live together even though they’re deeply in love because living together just isn’t for them. Polyamorous people specifically buck this script by saying “No, I love who I love, and as long as those involved are consenting, that’s perfectly fine.”
Being poly is saying “relationships aren’t taking a slice of pie to offer to someone new, and suddenly there’s less pie for your first partner. Relationships are realizing that pie is awesome AND BAKING MORE PIE.” It’s also saying “Gee M sure does love pumpkin and I like that a lot. We bonded over our love of pumpkin pie with a heck of a lot of whipped topping… but you know, I sort of miss Pecan and Chocolate. Maybe if M is ok with it, I can find someone who likes those kinds of pies too. And if M is comfortable, maybe M can go find someone who loves CAKE!”
Because each relationship is it’s own thing. And while yes, you should definitely be aware of how your metamours are responding and choose people who are emotionally mature and stable before trying to add them to your polycule for the sake of your current partners and the emotional stability of those involved… so long as you’re up front about what’s going on, relationships should be allowed to grow as they need to, within the boundaries laid by those you’re involved with. (Meaning, my Partner isn’t going to go collar someone Just Because and my boyfriend isn’t going to go screw someone on a whim because we talk about these things.)
But if either of them decided to go spend time with someone else…? That’s not stealing anything from me. I have hobbies, I have music, I have books, I have the internet. They are not the sum total of my emotional existence. And if they decide they want to date, well, yes I’d have some issues with it because hello yes I am HUMAN. But that’s when you TALK about those issues instead of shutting down and pushing them away because obviously, if they trust me enough to open up about it, I should trust THEM that it’s for a good damn reason and hear them out. And either I can change my behavior, be more open to trying something, or they can find someone else to explore with. Which takes no more from ME than deciding “Hey, I’m going out with my friends tonight!” or “Hey, need some space, gonna go for a walk and maybe take myself to dinner tonight, love you~”
Because love is not a finite resource, and I don’t have to be in my partners’ orbit 24/7 to be a fulfilled individual. I trust my partners. If I didn’t, I wouldn’t be with them to begin with. We all get 24 hours in a day. If I’m normally only going to be spending 8-16 with them ANYWAY due to work and other obligations well, I’m STILL going to be spending about that much time with them if on a day off they decide to spend it with someone DIFFERENT for a change.
The next person to tell me that mono-privilege doesn’t exist…. I swear to gods.
I woke up just before five this morning. I decided I wanted tea, as you do. Turns out my new teacups are not microwave safe. (Few are.) so I need the kettle.
There is no room to fill the kettle. One side of the sink has required cleaning for weeks, with some truly grody dishes waiting for me because, quelle surprise! being in a depressive funk will do that to a person. So… I start tackling the dishes. Grumbling some too, because there are MORE dishes now on the “utterly filthy don’t put anything else in there or risk contaminating it!” side of the sink… for some reason.
So… I start in on ALL of them. And then proceed to turn the water as hot as possible to tackle some of the glass cups I know will scrub off if I just practically boil them and wash them a dozen times. (they have a cut pattern so… extra cleaning is very necessary.) It takes me two hours. I say what the fuck, I’ll scrub out the stainless steel sink with some brillo, and then sweep and scrub the spots off the floor. I do that…
I need a shower. Pretty desperately, at this point. so I leave everything; including my partner’s tea kettle/brew master thing; recently scrubbed and pretty and go to get a shower. Well… fuck. Ok so the shower is a mess and fuck this bathroom. So, what do? I spray the shower with foaming soap, scrub off the sink, sweep and dust-buster the floor, and rinse down the sink and the bathroom ledge. (It’s important to note, the ledge is INSIDE the shower.)
I start to scoop out the litter tray and take out the trash… as soon as my back is turned, I hear a loud crash and the sound of water.
That FUCKING GOD DAMNED CAT tried to jump on the ledge, got caught on the shower hose; our showerhead attaches to a hose for ease of self and shower cleaning; and BROKE THE RING that holds it onto the wall mount. So I have to go wrap a towel around the fucking mount, unscrew the hose, and push down the stopper so water stops running to the shower head.
I was reduced to kneeling on the shower floor, taking a splash bath, just to get clean enough so I can now go to Target, pick up a NEW shower head, and try to install it. I officially hate everything.
In the eyes of the British government, the U.S. may now be a risky destination for LGBT travelers. The British Foreign Office posted a travel advisory update to its website Tuesday warning members of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender communities about anti-LGBT laws passed recently in North Carolina and Mississippi. “The U.S. is an extremely diverse society and attitudes towards LGBT people differ hugely across the country,” the advisory reads. “LGBT travelers may be affected by legislation passed recently in the states of North Carolina and Mississippi.”
The advisory also provides a map that marks countries around the world — including Turkmenistan, Pakistan, Nicaragua, as well as much of northern Africa and the Middle East — that also have anti-LGBT laws, and includes a few more pieces of travel advice. “Some hotels, especially in rural areas, won’t accept bookings from same-sex couples — check before you go,” the British government warns, noting that LGBT travelers should also “exercise discretion” in rural areas and avoid “excessive physical shows of affection” when in public.
This is the type of thing that I think would come as a shock to some Americans, as to how SCARY their country appears to many of us in the rest of the world. (And that’s allowing for the fact that many of our countries can be scary in their own ways.)
OMG this is so humiliating! On behalf of decent Americans, I’m sorry. The bigots and assholes are in control right now, but we’re working on it!
Literally ask any country gay who grew up in the Midwest and we can tell you we knew this lmao. I’ve been discouraging gay people coming to the states since I’ve come out
[Start ID: an individual shown from the hips to knees from the back. They have a brown bag with a small American flag and small LGBTQ rainbow flag. /end ID]
*looks around* so uh…. have you been LISTENING to American LGBT/Queer folks on this or like…? We’ve been SAYING THIS SHIT. I don’t know how much more explicit you’d like us to be?
House Of Crows 