Beatrice and Benedict are same-sex leaning disaster bisexuals who are both extremely surprised when they end up falling for someone of the opposite sex.
Fun family story: when my aunt was marrying her wife everyone was really excited but also dreading it because my aunt is known for her insanely long speeches so everyone knew her vows would be like 9 hours long so when it came time for her to say her vows she had a shit ton of cue cards in her hands and even her wife started groaning and my aunt took a deep inhale and then unravelled all the cue cards which were taped together and they all just read ‘HOT DAMN’ in giant letters and those were my aunts vows.
Y’all. If you have ANY kind of persistent issue with shoes not quite fitting right, not being comfy, putting pressure in one spot of your foot… wide feet, narrow feet, high arches, flat arches….
Google up some lacing tricks for whatever issue you have,and re-lace your shoes. There’s a bunch of little articles that tell you what to do step-by-step for each kind of foot, and also give graphics showing how the laces end up.
I just did a re-lacing for high arches and damn, my feet feel good.
There’s this discourse that goes around every now and then. Someone says that kink and polyamory don’t belong under the general queer umbrella because something something respectability. Someone else rejoins that actually kinky and poly people have been part of queer communities for decades and that there’s more overlap than you might think. Kink and poly are queer, goes the second argument, because most kinksters and polyamorists are queer.
I don’t actually disagree with B here. The respectability-fueled splintering of queer communities is pretty recent; certain subcultures have historically been entwined with queerness. But I’m always a little confused after reading that discourse, because – well, as a straight poly person, where am I supposed to fit?
It’s not like I’m champing at the bit to be “allowed” to identify as queer or anything. I don’t really care about terminology. It’s hella cognitive whiplash, though – the fact that there’s so much overlap between queer issues and poly issues, but I feel like I’m not supposed to address that or compare notes because I’m in love with two men instead of two women.
I read something yesterday, for instance, along the lines of “straight privilege is never having to pretend your lover is just a friend”. Uh, I *do* pretend – at work, anyway – that one of my lovers is just a friend. But there’s so much ambient “don’t compare oppressions” bullshit that I’m pretty sure I’d be shouted down if I mentioned that, at least in my meatspace social circle. Because then I’d be some entitled straight (white) appropriator.
Sometimes it seems like even people who acknowledge that categories have changed in the past still think, explicitly or implicitly, that it would be blasphemy for them to change again. As though all of evolution were working up to *right now*. We didn’t think about poly people when we were forming the LGBT coalition, which must mean they don’t “belong” in some cosmic sense. The current boundaries are the most natural and correct ones, after all. Maps are territories, right?
And this is why, to me at least, there is a very real difference between Queer, and LGBT+
Queer is a politicized non-cishet identity that I, personally, feel should only be taken if you’re “doing the work.” IE: in advocacy, involved politically or socially in affecting change for marginalized identities, etc. The “normie” uber-vanilla gay couple with a large extended family and support structure in the suburbs aren’t necessarily QUEER. They’re definitely gay! They’ve had some personal experience re: homophobia and marginalization… but they’re not Queer in the sense that a transperson living in section 8 and going to marches is Queer.
I’m not saying anyone should adopt that particular manner of thinking; even to me it’s a little “compare the oppression” and “queer enough” bullshit. BUT, at the same time… I do think it allows for some nuance and space for those who have similar struggles to say “yes and” instead of “what about-” when it comes to legislation that affects us all. You know, sitting at the table WITH us, instead of talking OVER us.
I’ve been very “you can’t sit with us” in the past, and there are subjects that I still feel bear that out and are acceptably That. But, there are also instances where I honestly think that our similarities matter more than our disparity. ESPECIALLY when taken in turn with how our histories are intertwined. PARTICULARLY in the States, Leather history is Gay history and vice versa. Literal boots on the ground during the AIDS crisis? Leather Dykes running fundraisers for the plague victims? Leatherfolk in every sense fighting back against the injustice and blind eyes…? Yeah, we stood together then. We knew who our enemies were, and they weren’t each other.
My opinions on certain “identities” hasn’t changed. I still think tucutes and bandwagoners are a thing, and I still think certain pride flags are dumb as fuck. But heck, that doesn’t mean they’re awful people just because I disagree with them on a few things.
Carbon dioxide has only one atom more than carbon monoxide just in case you think breathing is harmless
These are kind of silly arguments. Adderall really is similar to meth, in both composition and effect. A lot of posts like “these chemicals look similar, they must be the same” are bullshit, but in this case they’re not far off. They’re both amphetamines.
The most important difference between Adderall and meth isn’t chemical, but how they’re taken. If you took controlled amounts of slow-release methamphetamine under medical supervision, it would be a safe and effective treatment for ADHD. In fact, it is used that way. Conversely, if you smoked unrestricted amounts of crudely homemade Adderall all day long, it would be quite likely to ruin your life.
Honestly, this is the case for most drugs of abuse. Heroin is given as a painkiller in some countries under the name diamorphine. Cocaine is used as an anesthetic for ENT procedures. What makes these chemicals dangerous is not their inherent composition but their effects when abused. Adderall, like many other drugs, has a potentialfor abuse but also a potential to do good, and the difference between the two uses is more about the user and their support system than the chemistry.
This has basically been my argument for decriminalization since… idr.
It’s the lack of support structure and the utilization of self-medication to the detriment of all else in your life that causes the real issues. There are some things that should only be taken under supervision, and things that should only be undertaken with the help of a medical professional… but criminalizing someone for doing it without that support structure; most often out of desperation or other extenuating circumstances; is really shitty.
since it’s halloween season and screamers exist and I don’t always watch every last second of a video before reblogging it because sometimes my attention span just craps out on me or some shit…
if I do ever reblog a screamer by mistake PLEASE TELL ME if you notice, so I can delete it asap. Unless I actually leave a comment and/or tag on the thing indicating explicitly that I’m aware it’s a screamer (and if I do ever deliberately reblog one, which is unlikely, it WILL at least be tagged ‘screamer’ so people can blacklist, I’m not always good at consistent tagging but I’m pretty sure I can keep up on THAT one), IT IS UNINTENDED and I would probably prefer for it not to be on my blog.
I spent two and a half hours tonight making Tahli Xhexania a new hoodie to match Rh’yleh’s. Warm, black fleece with gigantic hoods; that fall over their noses if they move at all; that say “I’m a devilish vampire bun, but I’m warm and snuggly at my October crossroads dealings with the underworld~”
Enjoy the flailing over Halloween and swirling about because Pumpkin King and Halloween and Vampire Buns and the Evil Bunny Alliance~ 😀
House Of Crows 