Uhm…..? Ok. Look. There’s a LOT going on with that post, and I’d suggest you take a look in the notes to see more of what people are saying, particularly ones @lenyberry has reblogged because there’s good information there. 

Now, since you DID decide to address me with this… we’re going to Talk.
The point is that, regardless of your personal feelings, bullying people and revelling in their pain is a shitty thing to do. Yes, even if they’re white and male. It’s most emphatically NOT ABOUT equating push back as bullying, it’s saying, specifically, “Hey. Someone breaks down in tears because you’re confronting them? Don’t give them shit for that on top of everything else. Give them a god damned minute to compose themselves because emotions are COMPLICATED damn it and you can’t automatically assume they’re being manipulative unless you know FOR A FACT that they are manipulative human beings who have that much control over their physiological responses to stimuli” 

It’s not saying that people don’t manipulate others by using emotions, and in particular, tears. It’s saying that a lot of times, tears are the body’s way of releasing emotion; not just sadness or “depressive” feelings. A lot of emotions end up in tears because it’s a valve for emotional release. 
Yeah, you’re worth not hurting. The point is, SO ARE WHITE GUYS. 

I honestly don’t know why you decided to message me, of all people, about being “sick at heart” unless it’s because you see me as an easier target than everyone else discussing the issue. Since, you know, I reblogged the part I wanted on my specific blog, and did not otherwise get involved beyond parroting the words of a friend, because I feel they are important. My own history is complicated, and even matters of race aren’t; ha; black and white. For instance~

You wouldn’t know just by looking at me that my white abuser sold me to a black man to have his way with when I was sixteen as part of a three year hell from 15-18.
You wouldn’t know that my half Black half Hispanic brother tried to rape me and molested me repeatedly throughout my childhood until around seventeen.
You wouldn’t know that it was always middle eastern men who disrespected me the most at every job I’ve ever had and made the worst comments about my body.
You wouldn’t know that I’m still uncomfortable around large men of color; not because of stereotypes, but because of my own PERSONAL HISTORY. 
You wouldn’t know that, despite all that, I married a Hispanic Jew and spent five years of my life with him…. years that I regret; not only for his entitlement and arrogance, but because he gaslit, emotionally abused, and denied not only MY mental health issues, but his own at the cost of my physical safety.
You wouldn’t know that my own half sister; whose father was Jamaican; has browbeat me about my “lack of faith” and every so often, tells me I’m not actually male and I need to grow up and accept myself. I still love her, but gods know I fight not to block her for her inability to accept my polyamorous heart, transgender identity, and my pagan faith. 

The truth is, just like many people on that thread stated, YOU DO NOT KNOW ANOTHER PERSON’S HISTORY OR JOURNEY UNTIL YOU KNOW THEM. I’m not generally one to play “Oppression Olympics” but I was told about my “white privilege” while starving in section 8 housing while her prissy ass had a brand new apartment in one of the nicest areas of the city, two cars, and a full time job in management, with parents willing to pay for her schooling. 

In light of that, I’d like to quote the post above mine, from my friend Leny: 

it’s not ok to weaponize your marginalizations to justify bullying someone you perceive as having more privilege than you – even if they really do, even if the one axis you’re leveraging is the only one relevant, but sometimes the white person is neurodivergent and/or chronically ill/disabled, sometimes the man is a gay trans dude, sometimes the straight person isn’t white and/or is an abuse survivor with PTSD. You probably don’t actually know unless you actually know that person fairly well, and regardless. Even if that person is actually all at once white, cisgender, straight, able-bodied, neurotypical, and male with no history of trauma. It’s still not ok to bully that person just for not immediately dropping everything to perform allyship perfectly the moment you snap your fingers. It’s still not ok to laugh at their distress, or mock them for being distressed, even if you really have lived through far worse.  Criticize where it’s warranted, certainly, but acknowledge that most people want to be good people and experience at least some degree of emotional turmoil when it’s suggested to them that they might not be, and most people have trouble accepting sudden unanticipated criticism entirely gracefully. And have the basic decency to refrain from taking cheap shots. 

I’m not worth less because I’m white, because I ID male, or because my relationships while I’m pre-op/HRT read “heterosexual.” No, you don’t deserve to be bullied. And neither do I.